Showing posts with label mindset. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mindset. Show all posts

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

How Far Can You Push It?

How Far Can You Push It?

In this article by Benjamin P. Hardy he tells a story about a farm boy who decides to see how much work he could get done in a day. He asked himself “If I work as hard as I can, I wonder how much I can do in a day?” As Ben says in the article another variation might be "how far could I possibly go?".

It turns out the kid crushes his days work becoming obsessed with seeing how much he could get done, and only stops briefly for a drink and food. His boss asks how he got so much done and pays him a bit extra for the hard days work. It ended up being the most money he had ever held in his hand. 
"As he walked the few miles back to his farm, his mind danced. His heartbeat was quick. He felt like the richest man in the world. And he was — because he now had a confidence and level of self-trust that you can’t actually buy with money.
He had just watched himself push his own boundaries. His worldview of himself was ripped wide open and he stepped out of the limiting confines of his previous self-definition.
His curiosity led him to greater confidence and greater rewards than his imagination initially conjured."

This got me thinking and I wondered why as we grow older why we don't continue to ask ourselves questions like this. As kids it is always "how high can I jump?", "how far/fast can I run or ride my bike?" We start to think we know all the answers to our abilities but it is only because we put limiting beliefs around our current capabilities and don't ever really push the boundaries. Where we are currently at is probably far off where we could possibly get to if we just challenged ourselves.

The article goes on further saying "most people are curious about how little they can do". I believe this to be very true. When I look at our society today that is what most people are aiming at. It seems like an easy option but it may not be. 

"Joe Polish, the founder of Genius Network, has a great saying. He says that, “Winners find ways to be winners and losers find ways to be losers.”

It actually takes a lot of ingenuity and creativity to be unsuccessful.

Polish describes his time as a drug-addict, and about how much effort and thought it took to keep up his life. He was incredibly resourceful to get his drugs and to hide his stories and deceptions from family, friends, and others.

It takes a lot of work and curiosity to be a failure.

It takes a lot of energy to continually convince yourself that you’re not worth a damn.

It takes a lot of hard work and energy to pretend you’re working at work when in reality, you’re doing anything but work.

What if you flipped the script on yourself?

What if, rather that seeing how small you could be, you saw how great you could be?"

So out of all this the takeaway is to push yourself hard in whatever area you choose and see how good you really could be. It will be worth it because as mentioned above that is how you will gain confidence and self-trust. To me that is very important. 

Start with one area and then start implementing it in all areas of your life. That to me, is personal growth.

I think John Meadows said it so I'll credit him for it "If you never push your car to the red line then you'll never know how hard it can go". 

How hard can you go? Go and find out. 


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Saturday, 15 September 2018

Challenge What You Believe To Be Possible

Challenge What You Believe To Be Possible

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." – Bruce Lee

I think we all have so much more in us than what we currently believe. If you just take training as an example, mentally you think you are done long before you actually are physically. I can't recall the amount of times I have thought I may only have one rep left in me but end up pumping out an extra 3-5 reps, sometimes more. 

When it comes to learning a new skill, language, or anything else, you can learn pretty quickly if you focus on it. I remember reading Science and Practice of Strength Training and I could barely understand it. After reading more and more I began to understand the principles in that book and by the third time I read it I reckon I would have understood probably 70% of it. If I would have stayed where I was at and didn't try to learn more I would never have reached the point where I am now. 

There are so many areas of our life where we could improve if we just stopped putting those limitations around where we think we could progress to. Someone starts a business and says "I'll be successful if I make $100,000", but why just $100,000, why not $1,000,000? It doesn't have to be money driven either. If you want to help people and you think "I can probably reach 20 people", why don't we think of ways to serve 100 people, or more. Or it may not be about numbers, it may be "how do I continue to better service to my clients?" This last one is really my goal. I'm not out for quantity, I want quality. I want people who have a burning desire to achieve their goals and have laser like focus in attaining them. These are the people that give me energy and motivate me. I love being around people like that.

“I have never wished to cater to the crowd; for what I know, they do not approve, and what they approve, I do not know.” – Epicurus

Sure you need to start small and work your way up to it but I think many of us don't think bigger or what is truly possible. We set the bar too low. Maybe it is because we are scared to fail, to look stupid, I don't know. But I think if we sit back and assess our lives we will find so many areas where we can improve. Pick one and start implementing this week. 

As Jim Rohn has said: “Don’t join an easy crowd; you won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform are high.”


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Friday, 7 September 2018

Make A Decision and Get After It

Make A Decision and Get After It

There are too many options these days. Make a decision on what you are going to commit to and then don't let anything stand in the way of you doing everything possible to achieve your goals.

People are finding too many second, third, fourth, and even fifth options as back up plans to their main goal. You will not be successful this way. You have to put everything you have into ONE goal. If in the back of your mind you think you can bail and move on to something else then you will never be willing to go through the pain when times are tough and push yourself harder than you thought possible. 

As an example, trials for Harold Matthews and S.G Ball squads are coming up for rugby league and I see that the kids know all the different trial dates for each club. Whilst I understand they want to play at a representative level, I think it is setting them up for failure. I think you have to back yourself to making the squad at your first choice of club. If you don't make it, then it teaches you many things. You learn that failure is a normal part of life and that it isn't the end of the world, it should drive you to work harder on your game to become a better player which in the long run will help you make your bigger goal of one day reaching the NRL, and it will teach you perseverance which will serve you well in all areas of your life. Having so many "back up" options at the beginning just allows you to accept mediocrity. If you aren't good enough, you're not good enough. Yet. It doesn't mean you can't be.

If you do rip in to your first choice and don't make it and another trial date happens to be available at another club then go trial with them. But at least you will have learnt some things in the process. One should be that maybe you aren't as good as you thought. The main thing people will blame is game time, a bias from selectors etc. Take some ownership. If you were that good then you would be picked. You would be a stand out. If you didn't absolutely dominate the trial then you are every chance of missing out. 

Things will not always go your way. That is life. But if you truly want something bad enough you will find a way. It took me a lifetime to achieve my goal and it lasted 15 minutes. That is nothing in the big scheme of things when you consider the hours and hours of training, all the broken bones, torn muscles, all the surgeries, but it was more than worth it. It built character. It changed who I was and who I feel I can become. It gave me belief. And I now carry all the lessons with me.

"You have to make a decision. And once you make that decision, you simultaneously eliminate 99.99% of other options. This is the smartest thing you can do. As Michael Jordan said, “Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again.” Similarly, Ralph Waldo Emerson has said, “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”

You must pass your point of no return.

You must embrace the opportunity cost of making powerfully committed decisions. As Napoleon Hill said, “Definiteness of Purpose is that starting point of all achievement.” Until you become definite about what you’re doing, you will continually be tossed to and fro. Life will become increasingly complex. Skepticism and doubt will become your emotional reality. And in that reality, your only goal will be to tear things down, rather than build something new...

Have you made a real decision lately, and stuck to that decision?

Are you like most people, who have a fragile relationship with commitment?

Most people lie to themselves every day. They haven’t stuck to a real commitment and haven’t made a firm decision in a long time. They then seek information and opinions that justify their lack of progress.


Make a decision.

Own that decision.

Become better." - Benjamin P. Hardy