"Expect EVERYTHING. Raise your expectations. Surround yourself with people who expect the best. According to what psychologists call, “The Pygmalion Effect,” people rise or fall to the expectations of those around them.
The best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who hold you to a higher standard than you hold yourself.
Very few people want REAL accountability in their lives. I’ve watched it. It takes a considerable amount of persuasion to convince someone to make a change THEY WANT TO MAKE in their lives.
Most people resent accountability. They don’t want to be pushed. They don’t want high expectations.
They want lower and lowering expectations. Even when they pay someone to hold them accountable.
But if you want real growth — surround yourself with people who expect you to show up bigger than you’ve ever watched yourself show up. Surround yourself with people who see enormously more in you than you could ever see in yourself.
Attach to nothing.
I truly believe this. I have been very fortunate to learn from some of the best people in their respective fields and it has helped me progress so much quicker than I could possibly have if I went after it myself. I love being aro und a group of people who are all pushing their personal limits, it is very motivating. At times it can be uncomfortable and you will have doubts about yourself but the more often you get uncomfortable and push your own expectations the faster you progress and the easier it becomes.
I heard a great story about Dave Tate where he said each time he became the strongest guy in the gym he would seek out where stronger guys trained and would go train at that gym. Eventually he ended up at Westside Barbell where some of the strongest powerlifters in the world were training. This is a great mentality to have and if more people would drop their ego they would be able to achieve much more than they thought possible. So many guys these days actually do the opposite and try to train at times where they can be the strongest, bluffing themselves and pumping up that ego a little.